Tuesday, 27 June 2017

toddler skin to skin contact

"Did u drink my milk? " I felt someone drinking.....

He kept quiet, thinking for a many seconds... before he answered, "me"

Just a little bit!

Why just a little bit?

Im afraid u will scold me

Why? U like to drink my milk?

Yes

U want to drink a lot?

Yes.


on another occaion:


When i was still sleeping he tries to roll up my shirt from my back
He had difficulty then he decided he has to also roll up from the front

When he was doing it from the front, suddenly he saw my nipple and decided to give it a suck

When i woke up he got startled

Oh, he explained "i thought you are sleeping"







yes, and he decided to stack books on my back
??


this guy make me feel that if he can crawl under my skin, he would!
he loves to rub his face all over me...and sometimes it hurts.
he gets heavier now (as compared to last time because he is very tiny for someone his age) and whenever he sleeps on me, even if it is only his head nested on my chest (between shoulder and neck), i would felt out of breath!
what should i do!

son, that does not mean i love u any lesser.
but really, it suffocates me and hurts my collarbone. eekk

-xoxo-

-march 2017-

Friday, 16 June 2017

16-6-17

Today after school i picked ks home

He overheard his dad telling me that he (dad) wanted apples and oranges

Ks exclaimed that he wanted apple too

Then he began asking:

Him: isna talk english?

Me: no. She speaks in bahasa

Him: what is skin?

Me: kulit

Him: tidak mau kulit. What is meat?

Me: isi. Meat is i-si

Him: isi. What is skin again?

Me: kulit

👍

Then i recalled back in ah ma's house last week, ks yelped to his grandma, "ahma Ni suap wo!" .....no one responded
Ahma! Ni suap wo!

Only kj can understood 😂

Kind hearted kj " ahma, kayshen yau ni feed ta"  (grandma, kayshen wants u to feed him)

Ohhhh...😄

16-6-2017



Sunday, 30 April 2017

30-4-2017

During dinner today, out of the blue kj turned to me and asked "hey mummy are u wearing your bra?"
Yes of course i am
Oh where? I thought you are not
Here!
And he lightly press my shirt down and see the "hill" not mountain
Hahaa
Ohhh he uttered.

His dad caught us in our conversation, this is one topic which bothers him more than it bothers me
So he quickly explain to kj that this are private parts .he cannot do that etc etc
I quickly add on that he can do so to me but not to others..only to me
I think somehow i do not want to part with him as in i do not want him to think that he cannot do such things to me and we wont be as close as before -______-'''
Sobs
Heck he used to drink my milk! Haha



30-4-2017

Friday, 10 February 2017

stop bathing with kids

I spoke to kj today

Of late, when we were watching tv togeher, it is usually me+hubs watching our dramas and he joined in

Whenever he sees woman with bra and panty he will go ueeeee

So today i had the opportunity to speak to him about it

Beginning this year, hubs reminded me to stop bathing together with kj.
i challenged him why
Hubs confided that kj is growing up now and he is aware of such issues. 
I have been bathing with him since day1 of his life till now.
alright, i am more conscious now and i only strip my clothes off, leaving my undergarments and bathed the boys.

Back to the conversation with kj.
Kj, why did u uekk when you see girls with bra and panty in the tv?
I feel shy
So next time i wont bathe with u anymore ok? Because i respect you, and if u dont like it i will not do it.
No its fine. U can bathe with me
U think its ueky right? So i will not do it, i dont want u to feel uncomfortable
 It is not uncomfortable. Just a lil bit shy
Maybe skip one day?
*i understand he means every other day
Okay we can do that. And i will put on my bra and panty ok?
Ok (all the time trying to look at his story book)

There is many school of thoughts for this.

To let your children see naked body and they wont feel gross when they see naked bodies outside the house?

Really there are many controversial stories out there


This is not a post for discussion
This is to remind me of tonight's conversation:)

10-2-2017

Thursday, 5 January 2017

how to cook canned sardine


sardine recipe


hubs came home late and when he was eating, i sat on the dining table too.

"come, eat this" i encouraged.
i know he doesnt fancy sardine, but anyway....

Me: come...eat it...
Him: no thank you
Me: come..eat it...
(i was persistent..heh)
Him: no, i dont eat sardine
(duh like i dont know!)
Me: i know, just try it!

reluctantly dip into the gravy and put into his mouth
*****sparkles*****
Him: mmmm! yum! hurry tell me...what did u put?
i gave him a smug look...
Him: hurry...tell me...what did u put?
Me: .........
suspense......

Him: "mmmm! that is why i love indian food!
indian food is amazing yada yada..."

here goes the recipe before i forgot and fail to replicate in future :)

1 can of sardine
1 fresh tomato
garlic, 2 slices of ginger
1 onion
2 sprig curry leaves
1/4tsp fennel seed
1/4 tsp cumin seed
1/4 tsp coriander seed
salt
sugar
curry powder
turmeric powder


1. heat oil in skillet
2.sweat onion, garlic, ginger in the skillet until brown
3. add in the spices and continue to fry till fragrant
4. add in curry leaves and tomato
5. pour in can of sardine
6. add curry powder and turmeric powder and some water and simmer. add salt and sugar to taste

the way i cook is that i dont measure, unless im baking.
so i threw everything into the skillet without measuring hence im lucky this dish comes out delicious! ;)

thanks to my colleague (a guy!) for cooking this and bringing it to work.
it got me started googling for sardine recipe! *thumbs up*


sweet and sour pork recipe

it was raining so i came home from work and decided to cook something different!


sweet and sour pork!


recipe before i forget:

pork slices
1 tbs corn flour
1tbs rice flour
2 tbs plain flour
2 tbs plum sauce
1 tbs lea and perrins
1 tbs tomato sauce (ketchup)
1tbs soy sauce
2 tsp? sugar
2tbs water

1. coat meat with 3 types of flour
2. deep fry
3. discard cooking oil.
4. mix all the sauces and pour into skillet
5. throw in the fried meat and coat them with sauces
dish out
garnish!

Monday, 26 December 2016

26.12.2016





i was busy shopping online this morning and when i turned to check on them, this was what he was doing.
a pat on your back kid!

then after a while, a clumsy pig spilled water!

kayjay took a cloth and wipe it and squeeze it into a pail.

(kayjay narrated and i type!)

boxing day 2016


kj is so sweet

im on a le creuset craze now and i lamented to hubs that we do not have a teapot! how do i make tea?

kj says " zhe yang xi huan le creuset, mai le creuset lah"

awwwww....isnt he sweet!

he says "always le creuset le creuset "-_-'''

but he said it so kindly and lovingly that i am taking it positively.

i have been shopping (online/ at home) and kids are all ears even when they are doing their things! dang!
it is a topic of discussion with hubs so kj knows what is my current interest. *shy*

quick and simple meal for lunch today, while mummy shop a wee bit boxing day!
who can resist ? right?!?!


i did the fried rice on the le creuset skillet but it got a little messy so i quickly transfer into my old tefal.


baked beans with tomato!
cooked in the skillet 26cm and transfer into the flower casserole to serve :D


i missed the date of winter solstice this year! when i got to know , it was on that morning! when i came home from work, i ransacked the fridge and find that i have all kinds of flour except glutinuous rice flour. :(

kj mentioned about tang yuen a couple of times and i reminded myself to do it this morning.

red bean dessert was cooked in my new toy in the kitchen, noxxa pressure cooker!
i soaked the red bean for a couple of hours, until it got puffy, and cooked for 30mins in the pressure cooker.
it wasnt soft and mushy as expected.
i still need to experiment further.

previously i would cook my beans in my slow cooker, and without needing to soak the beans, they come out perfectly soft and thick.

if any of you come across any blogs on the pressure cooker, do drop me a msg!
many thanks




Tuesday, 8 November 2016

Death and marriage

Death and Marriage

last night before falling asleep, KJ asked about death. i forgot how this topic came about but i didnt want him to forget his ah kong , his grandfather so i reminded him how much ah kong loved him. he remembers. he said yes, ah kong always say that "i am guai guai" which is indeed true, my father always repeated those words to him.
it feels sad that my dad is not around to watch him at this age so what i can do is to remind him about ah kong.

i told him that ah kong is still here with us, he is with God up there hence he is watching us all the time. in a way i feel like im a hypocrite because i am not a Godly person. but i still need to give them an answer dont i?
hence i elaborated about how ah kong's spirit has left his body (because he says ah kong's body is buried).


kj: ah kong is not on earth now?
me: yes he is not. when he passed away, his body will be here but his spirit will leave his body and fly up to be with God.
kj: ohh i know,so when i die next time i will see ah kong?
me: yes u know. but ideally i should join ah kong first before you. when you are old next time then u will join me . so whenever u want to talk to ah kong, just put your hands together and speak to him, he will hear you.
kj: like that? then i can talk to him?
me: yes
kj: ok. but usually i will only talk to him when im in ah ma's house. when i want to talk to him, i will just pai pai to him.

awwwww. im glad to know he still remembers. i cant remember my childhood so not much memory. how sad.

right, after 2 mins of silence,
kj: do u know that aldrich and tamara are dancing together ? (for annual concert) and they look like.....
me: girlfriend and boyfriend?   (i have not talked to them about girlfriends and boyfriends ever)
kj:  like husband and wife
me: oh wow!
30 sec silence,
kj: mummy, so when will i marry?
im caught by surprised.
me: when you are old enough
kj cut in : when i leave home?
i wasnt prepared for such topic because he cant even bear the thought of sleepin on his own! let alone leave home? leave us?? (heart crushed)
he sounded so cool when he said that as-a-matter-of-fact. usually he will wail when his dad tells him he needs to sleep on his own in his own bedroom.
me: yes when you are old enough to leave home and start a family of your own. you wil marry your bestfriend like i do.
kj with enlarged eyes: YOU and DADDY ARE BESTFRIENDS?
me: yes we are. i love you no matter where you are and how old you will be. now im looking after you and when i am old, its your turn to look after me. same goes for ah ma. she looks after me when im young and when she is old i will look after her.
kj: but ah ma is there now.
me: yes she.....(tongue-tied) is...she is not very old yet (heh) she is capable of looking after herself now. (thinking back, i feel guilty for not spending enough time but yet we cant spend too much time with one another )

anyway, this is the first time we talked about death or partings in peace. otherwise kj will always cry whenever we talk about ah kong or him leaving us.

you have grown son.








8.11.16

this is so cute i need to document this immediately. otherwise i will forget. i have a brain like a goldish now.


S: hello mommy!
M: hieee baby!
S: hello mommy?? i cannot hear you
M: YESS BABY! CAN U HEAR ME?
S:mommy! Isna hit me!
M:....
S: isna hit me...because she dont want to give me keropok...i need to eat koropok but dont have...
M.....
S: (continue) cannot find keporok so cannot eat....i want peppa pig raisinss!! ok?
M: err...
S: or u give me kangROO raisin first ok? dont want red red ok?

red red is cranberries -___-'''

soooo cuteeee right this little chap...sigh..




last weekend we went out for brunch before watching Doctor Strange.

i had to strip him off his shirt because i did not pack extra shirts out and he was wearing a white t-shirt and i dont want him to dirty his tshirt

skinny guy who loves to eat everything tasty!
who doesnt right -_-'''