总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，
不论做什么事情，
只要能一起，就是好的，
但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
於是问题一个接著一个发生，
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
*她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
但是记住人是有弹性的，
很多事情是可以改变的，
只要你有心、有勇气，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？
很多人以为是因为感情淡了，
所以人才会变得懒惰。
错！
其实是人先被惰性征服，
所以感情才会变淡的。
*在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好， 这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！ 现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！
*听到了吗？明白了吗？
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
如果每个人都
懒得讲话、
懒得倾听、
懒得制造惊喜、
懒得温柔体贴，
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢？
所以请记住：
有活力的爱情，
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了， 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说： 你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！ 刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境； 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！ 接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上， 此刻，女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
你体会到了吗？
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时， 很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！
懂了吗？
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
那并不代表你会选择他。
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发 觉而已呢？
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
他或许已经等你很久喽！
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来， 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
*所以请记住，
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
爱一个人不要超过八分
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
要道歉，也要道谢；
要认错，也要改错；
要体贴，也要体谅；
是接受，而不是忍受；
是宽容，而不是纵容；
是支持，而不是支配；
是慰问，而不是质问；
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
是为对方默默祈求，
而不是向对方诸多要求；
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
reedit:
catered to the Chinese-illiterate community
*thank u so mch for the translation. i know it wasnt easy.thanks*
Subject: 可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手
(Can anytime hold hands,but don't simply let go the relationship)
爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，
The feeling of love most of the time is the sweetest in the beginning
总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
Often feel like there's another accompaniment, another person to share
your burden
你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，
You are no longer alone, at least got someone thinking of you, loving you
不论做什么事情，
No matter what you do
只要能一起，就是好的，
As long as both of you are together, it feels good
但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，
However gradually when both of you know each other more and more
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
You realized and saw his weakness
於是问题一个接著一个发生，
Problems occurred one by one
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
You started to be tired, fed up, even you thought of escaping
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
Some says love is like picking up stones
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
We want to pick one that is suitable for us
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
but how do we know when only can we picked the right one?
*她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
If he is suitable to you but how you know you are suitable to him?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
Actually, love is like polishing the stones
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
Maybe when the first time you picked it up, it is not as much as you expected
但是记住人是有弹性的，
But remember, human are elastic
很多事情是可以改变的，
A lot of things can be changed
只要你有心、有勇气
As long as you have the willingness in your heart and the courages，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
Better than to picking stones all around
还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？
why not put more effort try to polish what you have already got until
the stone shines,have you started polishing?
很多人以为是因为感情淡了，
A lot of people thought its because the feelings fade
所以人才会变得懒惰。
So we only turned lazy
错！
Wrong!
其实是人先被惰性征服，
Actually we are the one who have been conquered by our laziness
所以感情才会变淡的。
that caused our feelings to fade
*在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，
这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！
现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！
In a gathering, someone suggested that prawns are good for health, at
that ,moment, a middle age man speaks :" 10 years ago when my wife is
still my girl friend, she says she want to eat 10 prawns, i would do
everything for her and peel off the skin of the prawns for her! Now?
If she ask me to help her peel of the skin of the prawn? You're
kidding me! I'm lazy to help her take off her clothes, not to mention
the skin of the prawns.
*听到了吗？明白了吗？
Understand now?
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
No wonder more and more people does not wish to get married so early
and stays at the stage of boy girl relationship!
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
Because after marriage people tend o get lazy
如果每个人都
If everyone also
懒得讲话、
lazy to talk
懒得倾听、
lazy to listen
懒得制造惊喜、
lazy to create surprise
懒得温柔体贴，
lazy to gently care
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢?
Then how would it be possible to maintain the feelings between the couples?
所以请记住：
So remember:
有活力的爱情，
An energetic love
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
comes from a certain level of efforts and hard work of nurture
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
Lazyiness is restricted, when being in love!
*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了， 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说：
你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！ 刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
A couple dated for dinner and shopping after work, however the girl
was delayed by the meetings of the company and was late for 30
minutes, she ran through the rain and when she reaches the cafe, her
boyfriend angrily scolded her:"everything you were late, lets just
cancel off our date, i got no more mood ,i will no longer wait for u
anymore in future! At that moment, the girl's heart broke, she
thought:" how can this relationship be lasting? I don't think this
relationship will have a good ending or a good future" so everything
ends!
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境； 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！
接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上， 此刻，女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
Under the same situation for another couple. the boyfriend gently
speaks to the girl who is late for 30 minutes :" I think u must be
very tired!" then the boyfriend gently wiped off the raindrops and the
sweat from the girls face, and handover his own sweater to warm the
girl, at this very moment the girl cries, but the tears is so warm
filled with joy.
你体会到了吗？
Now can you feel that yourself?
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
Actually love and hatred is just behind one decision
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时， 很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！
For Love, we not only need to know how to be more tolerance, we also
need to know how to change our attitude and perspective on time!
懂了吗？
Understand?
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
When someone fell for you, and you also feel that his not bad
那并不代表你会选择他。
That doesn't mean that you will definitely choose him
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
We always say we want to find someone that we really really love only
will we start a relationship
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
But when he ask you what is the measurement of true love?what is the
measurement of very very in love?
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
You fail to answer, cause you don't know the answer as well
*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
Thats right,we often thought that we will find someone we really really love
可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
End up when we think back we will realize how naive we are in the beginning
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
If there is never a start, how would you know in the end you won't be
really really in love with that guy?
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
Actually, the true loves and the feeling of loving deeply only comes
after both were together and experienced ups and downs and went
through lots of situation.
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，
Everyone hope to find someone 100% as their partner
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发 觉而已呢？
But have you ever thought there might be someone beside you that has
been giving silently, being your guardian angel yet you never realize
him?
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
Thats why, pay more attention to the people around you
他或许已经等你很久喽！
He might have been waiting for very very long time
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
When love someone, love till 80% is just a nice level
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。
so you would have another 20% to love yourself
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来， 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
If you choose to love more, maybe you might create a situation where
too much pressure for him till his sophisticated and loss the fun of
love
*所以请记住，
so remember
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
drinking don't exceed 60% drunk
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
eating don't exceed 70% full
爱一个人不要超过八分
love someone don't exceed 80%
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
that day my friend ask me what should i do only consider loving someone?
我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
I smile and say:" everyone has different perspective towards love,
when my suggestion is correct then it will be a"revelation" for you
yet if what i say is wrong, then it will cause you a big trouble
(BELOW ARE MORE POETIC AS IT RHYMES AND SOME OF THE WORDS CAN HARDLY
BE REPLACE BY ONE WORD IN ENGLISH SO THE TRANSLATION IS A BIT WEIRD
:P )
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
If you are so lost in love, maybe the below statement might give you
some revelation
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
Love someone needs understanding and also listen and help solving
要道歉，也要道谢；
need apologize and also need to say thanks
要认错，也要改错；
need to admit our wrong and also need to correct it and never do it again
要体贴，也要体谅；
need to be gentle,caring and also need to be understand and tolerate
是接受，而不是忍受；
should accept but not forcing our self to "tahan" him
是宽容，而不是纵容；
is forgiving but not compromising
是支持，而不是支配；
is support but not giving orders
是慰问，而不是质问；
is ask with concern but questioning with suspicion
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
is tell out from heart to heart but not complaining
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
is unforgettable but not forgetful
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
is communicating not telling something as a "duty or responsibility"
是为对方默默祈求，
is silently pray for the person
而不是向对方诸多要求；
but not asking uncontrollably
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
can be romantic but don't waste
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
Can hold hands anytime but don't separate and give up the relationship easily!
(Can anytime hold hands,but don't simply let go the relationship)
爱的感觉，总是在一开始觉得很甜蜜，
The feeling of love most of the time is the sweetest in the beginning
总觉得多一个人陪、多一个人帮你分担，
Often feel like there's another accompaniment, another person to share
your burden
你终於不再孤单了，至少有一个人想著你、恋著你，
You are no longer alone, at least got someone thinking of you, loving you
不论做什么事情，
No matter what you do
只要能一起，就是好的，
As long as both of you are together, it feels good
但是慢慢的，随著彼此的认识愈深，
However gradually when both of you know each other more and more
你开始发现了对方的缺点，
You realized and saw his weakness
於是问题一个接著一个发生，
Problems occurred one by one
你开始烦、累，甚至想要逃避，
You started to be tired, fed up, even you thought of escaping
有人说爱情就像在捡石头，
Some says love is like picking up stones
总想捡到一个适合自己的，
We want to pick one that is suitable for us
但是你又如何知道什么时候能够捡到呢？
but how do we know when only can we picked the right one?
*她适合你，那你又适合她吗?
If he is suitable to you but how you know you are suitable to him?
其实，爱情就像磨石子一样，
Actually, love is like polishing the stones
或许刚捡到的时候，你不是那么的满意，
Maybe when the first time you picked it up, it is not as much as you expected
但是记住人是有弹性的，
But remember, human are elastic
很多事情是可以改变的，
A lot of things can be changed
只要你有心、有勇气
As long as you have the willingness in your heart and the courages，
与其到处去捡未知的石头，
Better than to picking stones all around
还不如好好的将自己已经拥有的石头磨亮磨，你开始磨了吗？
why not put more effort try to polish what you have already got until
the stone shines,have you started polishing?
很多人以为是因为感情淡了，
A lot of people thought its because the feelings fade
所以人才会变得懒惰。
So we only turned lazy
错！
Wrong!
其实是人先被惰性征服，
Actually we are the one who have been conquered by our laziness
所以感情才会变淡的。
that caused our feelings to fade
*在某个聚餐的场合, 有人提议多吃点虾子对身体好，
这时候有个中年男人忽然说「十年前，当我老婆还是我的女朋友的时候，她说要吃十只虾，我就剥二十只给她！
现在，如果她要我帮她剥虾壳，开玩笑！我连帮她脱衣服都没兴趣了，还剥虾壳咧！
In a gathering, someone suggested that prawns are good for health, at
that ,moment, a middle age man speaks :" 10 years ago when my wife is
still my girl friend, she says she want to eat 10 prawns, i would do
everything for her and peel off the skin of the prawns for her! Now?
If she ask me to help her peel of the skin of the prawn? You're
kidding me! I'm lazy to help her take off her clothes, not to mention
the skin of the prawns.
*听到了吗？明白了吗？
Understand now?
难怪越来越多人只想要谈一辈子的恋爱，却迟迟不肯走入婚姻。
No wonder more and more people does not wish to get married so early
and stays at the stage of boy girl relationship!
因为，婚姻容易让人变得懒惰。
Because after marriage people tend o get lazy
如果每个人都
If everyone also
懒得讲话、
lazy to talk
懒得倾听、
lazy to listen
懒得制造惊喜、
lazy to create surprise
懒得温柔体贴，
lazy to gently care
那么夫妻或是情人之间，
又怎么会不渐行渐远渐无声呢?
Then how would it be possible to maintain the feelings between the couples?
所以请记住：
So remember:
有活力的爱情，
An energetic love
是需要适度殷勤灌溉的，
comes from a certain level of efforts and hard work of nurture
谈恋爱，更是不可以偷懒的喔！
Lazyiness is restricted, when being in love!
*有一对情侣，相约下班後去用餐、逛街，可是女孩因为公司会议而延误了， 当她冒著雨赶到的时候已经迟到了30多分钟，他的男朋友很不高兴的说：
你每次都这样，现在我甚么心情也没了， 我以後再也不会等你了！ 刹那间，女孩终於决堤崩溃了，她心里在想：或许，他们再也没有未来了
A couple dated for dinner and shopping after work, however the girl
was delayed by the meetings of the company and was late for 30
minutes, she ran through the rain and when she reaches the cafe, her
boyfriend angrily scolded her:"everything you were late, lets just
cancel off our date, i got no more mood ,i will no longer wait for u
anymore in future! At that moment, the girl's heart broke, she
thought:" how can this relationship be lasting? I don't think this
relationship will have a good ending or a good future" so everything
ends!
*同样的在同一个地点，另一对情侣也面临同样的处境； 女孩赶到的时候也迟到了半个钟头，他的男朋友说：我想你一定忙坏了吧！
接著他为女孩拭去脸上的雨水，并且脱去外套盖在女孩身上， 此刻，女孩流泪了, 但是流过她脸颊的泪却是温馨的。
Under the same situation for another couple. the boyfriend gently
speaks to the girl who is late for 30 minutes :" I think u must be
very tired!" then the boyfriend gently wiped off the raindrops and the
sweat from the girls face, and handover his own sweater to warm the
girl, at this very moment the girl cries, but the tears is so warm
filled with joy.
你体会到了吗？
Now can you feel that yourself?
*其实爱、恨往往只是在我们的一念之间！
Actually love and hatred is just behind one decision
爱不仅要懂得宽容更要及时， 很多事可能只是在於你心境的转变罢了！
For Love, we not only need to know how to be more tolerance, we also
need to know how to change our attitude and perspective on time!
懂了吗？
Understand?
当有个人爱上你，而你也觉得他不错。
When someone fell for you, and you also feel that his not bad
那并不代表你会选择他。
That doesn't mean that you will definitely choose him
*我们总说：我要找一个你很爱很爱的人，才会谈恋爱。
We always say we want to find someone that we really really love only
will we start a relationship
但是当对方问你，怎样才算是很爱很爱的时候，
But when he ask you what is the measurement of true love?what is the
measurement of very very in love?
你可能无法回答他，因为你自己也不知道。
You fail to answer, cause you don't know the answer as well
*没错，我们总是以为，我们会找到一个自己很爱很爱的人。
Thats right,we often thought that we will find someone we really really love
可是後来，当我们猛然回首，我们才会发觉自己曾经多么天真。
End up when we think back we will realize how naive we are in the beginning
假如从来没有开始，你怎么知道自己会不会很爱很爱那个人呢？
If there is never a start, how would you know in the end you won't be
really really in love with that guy?
其实，很爱很爱的感觉，是要在一起经历了许多事情之後才会发现的。
Actually, the true loves and the feeling of loving deeply only comes
after both were together and experienced ups and downs and went
through lots of situation.
或许每个人都希望能够找到自己心目中百分之百的伴侣，
Everyone hope to find someone 100% as their partner
但是你有没有想过在你身边会不会早已经有人默默对你付出很久了，只是你没发 觉而已呢？
But have you ever thought there might be someone beside you that has
been giving silently, being your guardian angel yet you never realize
him?
所以，还是仔细看看身边的人吧！
Thats why, pay more attention to the people around you
他或许已经等你很久喽！
He might have been waiting for very very long time
*当你爱一个人的时候，爱到八分绝对刚刚好。
When love someone, love till 80% is just a nice level
所有的期待和希望都只有七八分；剩下两三分用来爱自己。
so you would have another 20% to love yourself
如果你还继续爱得更多，很可能会给对方沉重的压力，让彼此喘不过气来， 完全丧失了爱情的乐趣。
If you choose to love more, maybe you might create a situation where
too much pressure for him till his sophisticated and loss the fun of
love
*所以请记住，
so remember
喝酒不要超过六分醉，
drinking don't exceed 60% drunk
吃饭不要超过七分饱，
eating don't exceed 70% full
爱一个人不要超过八分
love someone don't exceed 80%
*那天朋友问我：到底该怎么做才算是爱一个人呢？
that day my friend ask me what should i do only consider loving someone?
我笑著跟他说：其实每个人的爱情观都不一样，说对了叫开导，但就怕说错反倒变成误导。那就糟糕了！
I smile and say:" everyone has different perspective towards love,
when my suggestion is correct then it will be a"revelation" for you
yet if what i say is wrong, then it will cause you a big trouble
(BELOW ARE MORE POETIC AS IT RHYMES AND SOME OF THE WORDS CAN HARDLY
BE REPLACE BY ONE WORD IN ENGLISH SO THE TRANSLATION IS A BIT WEIRD
:P )
*如果你也正在为爱迷惘，或许下面这段话可以给你一些启示：
If you are so lost in love, maybe the below statement might give you
some revelation
爱一个人，要了解，也要开解；
Love someone needs understanding and also listen and help solving
要道歉，也要道谢；
need apologize and also need to say thanks
要认错，也要改错；
need to admit our wrong and also need to correct it and never do it again
要体贴，也要体谅；
need to be gentle,caring and also need to be understand and tolerate
是接受，而不是忍受；
should accept but not forcing our self to "tahan" him
是宽容，而不是纵容；
is forgiving but not compromising
是支持，而不是支配；
is support but not giving orders
是慰问，而不是质问；
is ask with concern but questioning with suspicion
是倾诉，而不是控诉；
is tell out from heart to heart but not complaining
是难忘，而不是遗忘；
is unforgettable but not forgetful
是彼此交流，而不是凡事交代；
is communicating not telling something as a "duty or responsibility"
是为对方默默祈求，
is silently pray for the person
而不是向对方诸多要求；
but not asking uncontrollably
可以浪漫，但不要浪费；
can be romantic but don't waste
可以随时牵手，但不要随便分手。
Can hold hands anytime but don't separate and give up the relationship easily!
8 comments:
tats one gud article ;-p
NU NU how do you know!? CHEH~ :p
huh renu? u shocked me! ahahahah of all people! u shud be the last to comment in this post! LOLS!
anyone translated for u? rubish lah u!!!
:PPP
lol. got translation. *laughing off my chair* obviously i didnt noe wat it meant previously. was blog hopping and bila sampai itu post apa pun tak faham. so, i tot i wud leave a comment on how 'great' the post is :-)
tho it is translated, i bet it doesnt sound as meaningful and touchy as the the original one :-)
i actually just read it fully. nice one. really. i like the lazy part. very true
98% agree on this nice articles!
i should have read this post, half a year earlier =(
yihui! its ok. there's always a time for everything. maybe this is ur fate. u are meant to read this post after the incident.
:)
tc. we'll reunite soon!
aiseh!
ehehehhe
eh save some cny cookeis for me! ;)
kx, y 98% only ah?
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